What kind of Love are you looking for?
As we grow older, Love changes and We change.
Many midlife women are still looking for the kind of love they knew in their youth. It is important to be honest with ourselves about the love we really want as the years roll by.
I believe there are three distinct seasons – Romantic, Working and Mature Love.
We can all remember highs and lows of Romantic Love but we also know its intensity does not last. It is gradually replaced by Working Love which is settling down to work as a team involved with the tasks of home building and child rearing.
I knew a couple of single parents who got together primarily to provide a better home and family life for their teenage children. This arrangement, which was set-up for very practical reasons, grew into a loving relationship.
Finally comes the phase of Mature Love where the pressures ease off and there is time and money to develop a more comfortable lifestyle and sophisticated ‘lovestyle’.
The traditional expectation was that the same couple would move through all three stages. In today’s much more fluid western society many couples don’t make it all the way. Thus many ex-partners find themselves alone and looking for love.
For Midlife women, and men, the requirements for love to take root are very different from when they were teenagers. Often women in this age group diminish their chances because they don’t think they have the attributes that made them attractive when they were younger.
Actually they have very attractive qualities to men of all ages, if they but knew it.
More information about the ‘Seasons of Love’ and how to get the love and happiness you desire is contained in my forthcoming book ‘Love Sex and the Midlife Woman.’
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