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Women Collaborate while Men Compete

Quite apart from other skills, women are much more inclined to cooperate and collaborate to get things done.

As conscious midlife women, we are all on a journey of self-development. It makes sense that we will do better as a group than on our own.

The aim of the New Midlife Woman Community is to bring together women who are at all stages of their journey so that they can share and support each other.

I have been looking out for ‘experts’ who can help, guide and support us in the six major areas that hold midlife women back from moving into their feminine power and fulfilling their deepest desires.

This growing team of experts is not exclusive and if you have knowledge, skills or experience which can help midlife women in one of the six areas that hold them back, please let me know.

In the following video I explain what I consider are the key areas that hold midlife women back.  Please let me know if you agree or not. Email me at jean@lovemidlifewoman.com

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Let us look at those six areas in a little more detail

1. Health & Wellness –

We know our bodies change in midlife but don’t necessarily know what they need to stay healthy.

In our youth our body could generate what it needed to be healthy from a variety of sources. It was also very resilient, so we could eat anything, miss sleep or get drunk and our body would just bounce back.

Once we hit midlife our body is more delicate, and its needs are different. Now we have to actively seek-out the nutrients that our body needs to keep us healthy and arrest premature ageing.  

Many people think the word healthy means not being ill. With what we know today about how our body works and what nutrition it needs, we can do a lot better than that.

There is a growing world of science and success which teaches midlife women how to regain and maintain good health and zestful wellness for the second half of our lives using natural sources.

And its not just about feeling well but also looking good. That includes having the body you want, and which radiates beauty and well-being. How does that sound to you?

To find out more about this area and meet some of our Experts – click here

2. Intimate Relationships –

Midlife women need a platform of love to support them.
So do midlife men but their idea of love is different 

Losing love seems to be an occupational hazard for a woman in middle life, and so is trying to replace it.

Maybe your long-term partner has died or walked out. You worry whether you will be able to find a replacement partner to provide the love you need, at your time of life.

Maybe your long-term partner is still around but love has walked out. You fret, you toss and turn at night, wondering whether to stay in a loveless relationship or take the chance you will find someone better.

You might already have started to put yourself out there. You wonder how the hell you did it before. It seemed so easy then but now it is all so different and scary.

You may have thought you had found the right guy but now he is going cool. Suddenly he is not calling you or texting you so often.  Your stomach is sinking as you feel another promising candidate is going South.

You begin to feel quite desperate!  You tell yourself you haven’t got what it takes to pull the right guy anymore. You ask yourself: Will I ever find Love again?

It is vital for a woman to feel loved and have a platform of love from which she can draw strength. This usually comes from a partner of the opposite sex but not necessarily. Without a platform of love it is very difficult for a midlife woman to exercise her influence in other areas and perform at her best using her feminine power.   

3. Financial Independence –

It is vital that midlife women have a grip on their finances and aim for financial independence for several reasons.

 

1. Being dependent for money on someone else is demeaning and reduces our confidence. While we might dream of a wealthy suitor coming into our lives, the apparent financial ease it might bring will have strings attached to it.

 

2. Most women end up without a partner at the of their lives. This is simply because women on average live longer than men. Even if you acquire a wealthy partner, there is no certainty that he will make adequate make provision for you after he has gone.

 

3. Having your own money and taking care of your assets and resources makes you more attractive to midlife men. This not just because many midlife men have run out of money themselves. It is because men respect and admire women who are financially strong and independent.

 

Being financially independent does not mean being very rich. It means being able to earn enough to maintain a comfortable lifestyle now and to be able to build up an asset base to provide income for you when you no longer want to work, or are not able to 

 

Here are some statistics Kim Kiyosaki quotes in her book Rich Woman 

 In the US 47% of women over the age of 50 are single.

• Women’s retirement income is typically less than men’s because of interruption to their working lives through family responsibilities.

• 50% of marriages end in divorce. The woman usually has care of the children
  
  • In the first year of divorce a woman’s standard of living drops by an average of 73%.
  
  • Married ‘Baby Boomer’ women (born 1945 – 1956) can expect to outlive their husbands by 15 to 20 years.
  
  • The average woman born between 1948 and 1964 will have to keep working to the age of 74 due to inadequate savings and pension coverage.
  
  • 3 out of 4 elderly living in poverty are women but 80% of these were not poor when their husbands were alive.

Source: Rich Woman – Kim Kiyosaki – Rich Press 2006

Though these statistics are for the US, the UK ones are likely to be much the same probably getting worse.

But here are a few encouraging thoughts

Women are usually better money managers than men

There’s plenty of evidence to show this. However, they have often been convinced of the opposite…… by men!

This is not quite as insidious as it may sound. In the early years of a woman’s life, the usual impulse is towards having children. With this goes the instinct to find someone who can be relied on to protect and support us during the years of vulnerability.

Sometimes this leads us to leave decisions about money to our partner while we are preoccupied with having and nurturing the children.

However, this situation does not go on for ever. Once children start to become independent the biological impulse on both sides wears off. After children grow up motivations as a couple are not necessarily so parallel. A compatible couple in their mid-twenties may no longer be so in their mid-forties. The 50 % UK divorce rate is concentrated around couples in their forties.

Some middle aged men look to repeat the process with a ‘younger model’ which may leave some women even more financially insecure.

Make sure, you are educated in money management and wealth creation. y woman and are financially independent!

Initially financial independence may come from a job. However, long term you need to build an income which does not require you to work when you don’t want to or can’t.

Managing money and growing your wealth is a skill which can be learnt like anything else. Unless you were brought up in a family which managed money well, there is nowhere to learn these skills.  Schools do not feel it is their responsibility to educate children about money.

Fortunately today there are many sources where adults can learn these skills and take control of their financial future.

It’s not an overnight process and you know you’ll need some time and careful planning. 

Even if you think you are good with money, financial education will make you better and wealthier.

4. Self-Confidence

During our years of working love, we may well have experienced some disappointments, set-backs and even betrayals.   These will have bruised our self-belief and confidence.

It seems that in the first half of our adulthood we experience these knocks and set-backs from life to teach us some valuable lessons.  In the second half we learn what these are and how we can we can use them to help ourselves and others.

These are life-lessons which we need to learn from so that we can grow into our mature and wiser selves.  The learning doesn’t happen at the same time as we have the experiences. They come afterwards as a separate process.  This is often painful and distressing as we come to terms with what has happened in our lives so far and learn to see it from a different viewpoint.

Life doesn’t make it easy for us. As the obvious responsibilities of home building and child rearing begin to fall away, we can feel lost and of no further use. Without knowing what our function is we lose confidence in our value and importance.

We need to find a way to go through this learning process otherwise we can end up bitter and aggrieved. Nearly always that requires the help of some other people.

Now we are a midlife woman, we need to learn to hold our head up high and embrace our destiny and feminine power.